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The Problem with E-books for Getting your Ex Back

Saturday, 11 August 2012 12:23 Published in Blog

The Problem with E-books, Audio Education, and Video Education for Getting Your Ex Back:
The major problem with e-books and informational material regarding the topic of getting your ex back is that we believe they are ineffective similarly to a " beginners guide for proper swimming technique".  They do not work in our opinion; too many moving parts.  We subscribe to some of the concepts.  And we agree that if you could really execute on some of the ideas expressed, you would have some success depending on your situation.  However, your breakup is a moving, living, animal breathing on EMOTION and CHANGING circumstances.  The odds of you really being able to execute "no -contact" correctly is almost zero without coaching in our opinion.  The odds of you being able to know what to effectively say to your ex when you have to retreive items from her place because she is moving unexpectedly to Chicago is almost zero in our opinion.  The list goes on and on regarding real life, non-theory "stuff" that occurs during a breakup and during the re-attraction process that is NOT covered in the educational material that we have read.  Plus, the human brain requires another human brain for live interaction during highly emotional times such as these; preferably an expert.  Unfortunately, your brain has literally been hijacked by this breakup. Individual coaching is an absolute necessity if you want to fight human nature and use human nature simultaneously to get your ex back.  It's a daunting task to handle solo. 

What is the Friend Zone?

Saturday, 11 August 2012 08:04 Published in Blog

Have you ever wondered if you were too friendly with your ex where you were trapped into a "friend zone" and no longer a romantic prospect? It's a tricky situation that I coach on all the time in terms of dealing with your ex and contacting your ex. When you call zoo monkey, we will go over you situation but basically you want to stay somewhat reachable to your ex but not too friendly to the point where your ex is not valuing your time and/or not excited to speak and talk with you. The friend zone is a tricky place to be in because you do want to leave the door open for communication but y0u want it to be limited. Please feel free to add your comments or experiences with "the friend zone" as you have experienced it.

Three Things to Avoid When Contacting Your Ex

Saturday, 11 August 2012 08:03 Published in Blog

Ok, so you are finished with the "no contact" period or the "limited contact" period and you want to know how to contact your ex . Well first learn that there are three key things you want to avoid when contacting your ex.

1) Avoid any negative emotional topic- don't emerge from the no contact period with immediate references to the past breakup or past arguments. This is a psychological trap because you may want to start out with another apology or you think it is ok since time has gone by to bring up something you may have done "wrong". Do not do this. Do not bring up negative emotional topics, ie: past arguments, past issues, or any past issue with a hint of negativity.
(Read the other three things to avoid by the link(s) below)
As always, feel free to comment on this information below as we always like hearing your thoughts. -Phil Richman

How To Stop Missing Your Ex Boyfriend or Ex Girlfriend

Saturday, 11 August 2012 08:02 Published in Blog

1) Give Yourself Time to Miss Your Ex Within Reason- After a specific amount of time, you need to consciously tell yourself that anymore intense grieving and sorrow over your ex is unacceptable for your productive future. Your own time period is set by you but there are some relative norms:
The general rule is it takes one half the time you were with your ex to get over your ex. For instance if you were with your boyfriend for 4 years, it could take 2 full years to truly "get over him.." However, do not let this formula worry you if you feel two years is a long time (in this instance). We have ways to decrease this number by a fraction of the time when we speak to you about the ZooMonkey system for reconciliation and for getting over your ex.
By giving yourself some "healthy misery" time, however, you are allowing yourself to mourn in a healthy way and are not trying to speed up nature. It is very natural to go through a grieving period after a breakup. Do not beat yourself up over being upset. If you "give yourself" this time to mourn, then you will find that the time goes by faster since are not as hard on yourself but make sure you have a target date to move on past it and try to take things day at a time.
(click on the link below from to read more on how to stop missing your ex boyfriend or girlfriend)

Please feel free to comment on this article as you wish. We always enjoy your feedback, thoughts and input. -Phil Richman

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